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Worth Asking3 min read
Worth Asking: Reaching Out to an Old Friend
The quiet questions behind rekindling a friendship you miss.
What we know
People consistently underestimate how much others appreciate being reached out to. A simple, low-pressure message is usually welcomed far more than we fear.
What this may mean in everyday life
- Keep it light: 'You crossed my mind today and I wanted to say hi.'
- Let go of needing the perfect reason or a long explanation.
- No response isn't always rejection — timing and life get in the way.
- One small reconnection can matter more than you expect.
Questions worth asking
- Who have I been meaning to reach out to but keep putting off?
- What's stopping me — and is it as true as it feels?
Sources
- Undervaluing the positive impact of reaching out — American Psychological Association (JPSP) (2022)
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